BODYLANGUAGE ACADEMY

Ülli, why did you write a book about body language in flirt and romance?

 

Body language is the key to understanding hidden attitudes and feelings. People instantly react to events whether they want to or not and these automatic reactions leak information about our most secret feelings, even those we want to hide.

What we feel determines our attitudes towards things and that in turn influences our conscious and unconscious behaviors. By being able to read body language, we are able to get a glimpse of the sometimes shocking hidden reality. If words express what a person is thinking about, then body language reveals what the person is actually feeling and what he or she is trying to cover up. By interpreting body language we are able to see 99% of what is going on in people's conscious and unconscious thoughts.

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For how long have you taught body language and what other topics do you teach?

 

For the last 8 years the main topics of my trainings are non-verbal and verbal communication, sociopaths behaviors and false identification.

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Will there be more books from you about body language?

 

At the moment I am working on my next book about the nonverbal signals of sociopaths and how to recognize the signs of lying.

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Which one is more important in our communication - our words or what our body shows?

 

If words express what a person is thinking about, then body language reveals what the person is actually feeling and what he or she is trying to cover up. By interpreting body language we are able to see 99% of what is going on in people's conscious and unconscious thoughts. My experience in my work with people has taught me that communication skills are the basis for success in both work and private life, and the decisive human communication is non-verbal communication, which "leaks out" our latent attitudes.

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Where did you grow up, and how did this influence your writing?

 

I am from Estonia, from a little country in Europe. My father was a physicist, and he taught us to be curious about everything around us and always to look at a ´bigger picture`. As a daughter of a scientist, I prefer to look at the different research that academic people have done and after that decide what is true based on the facts. But I can say that we are pretty ancient in our behavior, even though we have sophisticated technology.

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When did you first start writing?

 

2009. My first books were for children and I like to tell stories. We learn through stories, no matter if we are 5 or 75 years old.

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What's the story behind your latest book?

 

Human relations are one of the most challenging aspects of life for everyone. Working in adult training and education, as well as counseling people who have found themselves in relationship dilemmas, I have often noticed how badly intelligent and educated people read others or adequately interpret the behavior of the opposing party.

Verbal information is usually understood very narrow mindedly. On top of this we badly interpret body language. Without understanding what is actually being said we find ourselves acting poorly in conflict situations. All of this, unfortunately, can have irreversible consequences in our lives - broken relationships and broken-up families. So - I hope my book will help people to have better relationships and be much more likely to find the 'love of our life,' whom we can love and be loved by for our whole life.

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In what do you believe?

 

I believe that there is somebody special for everyone and I hope - so do you!

 

 

Tallinn, March 2015